Damned if I Do and Damed if I Don't

While you're at it, trade her car in for some 19th century transportation.

The best solution I've seen was a period armoire which had been gutted but looked complete from the outside. Inside, the user had placed a high-quality modern rack which worked for him when he opened the doors but was otherwise not visible.

I took an early 19th century primitive cupboard, that was a little beat (do NOT do this to a good quality antique) and bored holes in the back to run cables. You won't get the sonic benefits of a quality rack, but you can use isolation platforms under each piece and put the TT and CDP or pre on top. Mine is about 4' tall and 3' wide. Email me privately if you want to discuss this further. I am in CT and did this when we owned an 18th cent. cape (No longer). You may have a cooling issue with a tube power amp that would require some additional thinking.

Wood racks from Zoethecus do pretty well at blending in with more traditional furniture, since they are available in 6 colors. They can be improved sonically by using Neuance replacement shelves, or with other cones/footers. If money isn't a consideration, you might check the performance of Grand Prix couplers underneath the electronics on Zoethecus shelves, for example. The turntable might do best both sonically and visually with a separate shelf mount on the wall. The shelf can be kept to a low visual profile, and can have a plant moved in front of it when not in use.

Sogood51 offered a great alternative. I had a stereo cabinet built out of solid teakwood. The wood matches the rest of my furniture. It weighs in excess of 200 lbs. The styling of the cabinet is somewhat contemporary, but the room is furnished and decorated in an "eclectic fashion". So basically "anything goes", from vintage antiques to surrealism artwork.

I seem to have found a fair compromise between sonics and vibration control, and aesthetic value. The nicest part of the cabinet is that it sits low to the ground behind a couch, making it less succeptable to airborn vibration and also removing it from sight when sitting anywhere in the room.

I'm in Connecticut also. Is this a New England Thing?