O-10, speaking for myself, I can deal with stubborness, close-mindedness, rigidity, illogic, anti-intellectualism, sarcasm and even plain bone-headedness; however, most disappointing of all (after three years of participation and seeing and overlooking the many signs) is the realization that you are not a person of good will. If it weren't for the silliness in behaving like a petulant child who doesn't get his way it would be even sadder than it is; and, with your sarcasm and cynicism, you simply create more rancor and exclusion. You consider yourself an aficionado and champion of the music and you are so self-serving in the place that you hold for it in your own personal sphere (agenda) that you don't see how you let that personal agenda and the resentment of not getting your way color your perception of the very music that you claim to love so much. You let it influence your perception of what is worthy and what is not simply based on whether your "opponent" (in your mind) thinks that it is, or your "friend" thinks that it's not; just as you refuse to even consider information presented to you in good faith that could help you appreciate your musician friend even more than you do because it would help you understand more the depth of what is required to do what he did. Sad indeed.