Remote for Parasound AVC2500 PrePro

I'm looking to find an alternative to buying a replacement remote for my Parasound AVC2500 preamp/surround processor . Parasound will sell me one for $100 + shipping.
My former processor, a B&K Ref20, died and I bought the AVC2500 on Ebay to replace it. The AVC2500 did not include the setup mic or the remote. However, the ad said you can use a Theater Master SL8000 or SL9000 universal remote to control it.

I thought I could use the remote control that came with the B&K Ref20 since it looks identical to the Universal Remote Control Inc.'s SL8000 and SL9000 models I researched on the internet.
Unfortunately, I was unable to make the B&K remote work with the AVC2500. I tried programming the B&K remote with all four of the 3-digit codes, one code at a time, listed for Parasound products in the SL9000's manual that I found on the internet. I also tried the automatic method for finding and programming the 3-digit code into the B&K (Sl9000?)and this was unsuccessful, too.

So, I have a few questions I'm hoping someone may be able to answer:

1. Do you think the B&K remote, supplied with the Ref20, can be used as the SL9000 it looks like? Or am I barking up the wrong tree?

2. Does anyone know the 3 digit code that the Parasound AVC2500 uses? I called Parasound and they were not able to tell me the exact code. I also searched the internet with no luck.

3. Do you think it's worth buying a used SL9000($50 on Ebay) to see if it works better than the B&K lookalike? Or should I just bite the bullet and buy the $100 replacement remote from Parasound?

PS: I got lucky and found a guy that was giving away his AVC2500(center channel not working) with the setup mic and remote included for just the shipping costs. I did this but the remote did not work. I can't test the setup mic until I get a working remote. I don't think there are shops that repair remotes cheaply so I may be better off buying a new unit for $100.

Thanks in advance for any responses.