Disappointing Evening

being gifted is not equivalent to being interested. many children have a musical talent but don't want to develop it.

let's face it music is preferred in the background mode by most people. if you had demoes your main system instead of the beo system, i'm confident that your guests would comment favorably about the sound.

for most people, music is not an end in itself, rather it is a means to stimulate some other activity. thus, the quality of the sound is not the issue. it's the fact that there is a "sound" that facilitates pleasure when people are doing something else. music is a catalyst.

only a small proportion of the population are willing to sit for any period of time and listen to music.

i see this occurring in an audio club of which i am a member. attention span is about 10 minutes and then people lose interest.

hi orpheus:

there's nothing like a good debate about equipment to sharpen your mind. remember keep your brain in shape. a good argument where you have to think on your feet is beneficial. look at your carping audiophile critics as a positive experience instead of a negative one. you can always humor them or laugh.

send them to me. i'll take care of them.

hi cyclonicman:

please don't confuse lack of interest with lack of discernment. a person can detect a difference between quality of things, without being interested.

its a matter of priorities. where the priority is high, one will be more dilligent, where priority or interest is low, one may be more superficial in one's evaluation or not be concerned of the difference.

the fact the sound is not important to mnay people or the fact that the size, clarity, or color of a video image is of little concern, where someone would be content to view a movie on a less than clear or lifelike color image does not imply a deficit in intelligence or dicsrnment, but is rather an expresion of taste or lack thereof.

this aapplies to food as well, wher someone is content to eat a hamburger and does not desire a more expensive cut of meat.

the more expensive steak, e.g, is easily recognizable but someone may not care to eat it.

in general, one who does not strive for the best is not always ignorant of what the best is.

are people so insecure that they want or need to impress ?

what difference does it make to the owner of material things if people are or are not interested in them ?

a friendship need not be based on shared interests in material things, but rather a genuine liking for the person.

again, don't sell people short. they may be able to distinguish good from bad sound, but they probably don't care. and as i said that aplies to other material things.

why do audiophiles seem so surprised when others have no interest in sound quality ?

for many it is not a priority, just as expensive cars or expensive clothes are for people who can afford them.

my intent was neither sarcastic nor to be funny.

what i am saying is obvious. it's unfortunate that someone feels the need to impress someone.

i don't have such a need.

i am more inner directed and less other directed.

the superficial is most unimportant.

it is a matter of priorities in life.

i don't have the need to impress. i am more concerned about mywn thoughts about something than other people's opinion of my posessions, appearance, or ideas.

i am not easily influenced by others unless they can argue logically and offer a basis for their positions.

i tend not to pay too much attention to trivia, or tv shows or movies.

i'm not stylish and tend to be a bit sloppy.

i don't understand why so many people are so concerned what others think of them.

hi tonywinsc:

unless you are a mindreader, the statement "to say we do not care what other people think of us is really just a statement of denial", is a conjecture.

what evidence do you have to back up that statement ?

i take people at their word.

if someone were to say they are not concerned with what other people think, i would accept it and not assume that they were in a state of denial.

consider the concepts--other and inner directed.

the inner directed person is motivated by his own thoughts and desires and may not consider the consequeneces of others' opinions or reactions.