Oh one thing - if you want that "live factor" then you can pretty much forget everything in dynamic speakers except ATC, PMC and Genelecs. Forget about panels too.
One good option which also might work for you would be large horns - Meyers, Westlakes, Tannoys, Klipsch....etc.
Basically ATC, Quested (uses ATC's midrange) and Genelecs have been replacing studio main monitors since the late 70's. Previously all studio main monitors were horns, as nothing else could emulate live music at realistic levels/dynamics. Most studios still use horns for mains.
One good option which also might work for you would be large horns - Meyers, Westlakes, Tannoys, Klipsch....etc.
Basically ATC, Quested (uses ATC's midrange) and Genelecs have been replacing studio main monitors since the late 70's. Previously all studio main monitors were horns, as nothing else could emulate live music at realistic levels/dynamics. Most studios still use horns for mains.