Consider going with a two channel amplifier with a home theater bypass to better match your main speakers then your choice of receivers isn't nearly as critical. I believe this combination is the best of both worlds.
As far as the confusion, you can always find something you like as well or better IF you're actively looking, but it doesn't mean that you'd be unhappy with a different product. When I purchased my current system I listened to several different brands and very much preferred my Focals, but also knew that I'd love to own almost any of the speakers that I heard. It sounds like you really like the Totems, so try to get an at home demo and see if you like them as well as you think. If not, keep looking.
As far as the confusion, you can always find something you like as well or better IF you're actively looking, but it doesn't mean that you'd be unhappy with a different product. When I purchased my current system I listened to several different brands and very much preferred my Focals, but also knew that I'd love to own almost any of the speakers that I heard. It sounds like you really like the Totems, so try to get an at home demo and see if you like them as well as you think. If not, keep looking.