Help with inverted phase Newbie Question

I can hear the phase on some things, but usually am not concerned about it enough to switch (my Pre also has a phase switch.. but why not a toggle on the remote???)
IF my remote had a button to switch back and forth, I might do it more... but I just cannot be bothered with it most of the time
Flames will appear: I am just not anal enough to HAVE to have it right... it's getting hot already!!!! Whoo Hoo!!
The difference I notice is the music seems to be 'behind' the speakers, or the same music seems to be 'in front' of the speakers... image wise.
I do NOT care if the MUSICIANS choose to sit in front of, or behind my speakers!!!

PS: I have (almost) always had PLANAR speakers...
Infinity or now Maggies. So my experience of clearly having the musicians in front or behind the speakers may be different than folks who use "one sided" speakers.