Pre-audition advice needed


I am building my first "high end" system. I am taking what might considered to be an unorthodox approach in that I've gone ahead and purchased both a MHDT Havana DAC and a Rogue Audio Cronus integrated amp sight unseen based on characteristics common to their reviews. I now need to complete the setup with a pair of speakers.
Room size: ~12'x14' with a large doorway to the right that cannot be closed.
Music tastes: Classical, blues, rock (nothing too heavy), jazz, world.
I live upstairs in an apartment so i would like to avoid a subwoofer. I am flexible on speaker placement and while I do have a wife, the W(acceptance)F=0 because my W(awesomeness)F=10. I would like to avoid speakers that have too narrow of a sweet spot since these would be pulling double duty watching TV and movies and I don't want my guests to be hearing crap off axis. Based on a week long research blitz here is a preliminary list of speakers that i have my eye on. I almost certainly want to buy used since bang/buck is very important to me. The budget is $500-$2500 (willing to pay for quality).
-GMA Rio
-Eminent Technology LFT-16 or LFT-8b
-Vandersteen 2CE
-Omega (something in the Alnico range)
-Devore Gibbon Super 8
-Merlin TSM-M
-Totem, something in the Arro-Hawk range (would also consider a monitor from them.
-Basically anything that is a good deal used.
What I am curious to hear from you all is whether any of the choices listed above would be a particularly good (or bad) choice given the front end I've assembled. I am also of course open to any other suggestions. One thing I am worried about is whether I might be better off with a smaller cheaper speaker that my amp will find easy to drive vs a more expensive, potentially nicer sounding speaker that my amp would find more difficult (not straining, just more difficult) to drive. I've heard two things about speaker demoing:
1. never buy without auditioning in store
2. you can't really know what it will sound like til you get it home in your own room.
Based on the many contradictory experiences you can read about for the same speaker, I'm inclined to believe more in number 2. Since I don't foresee myself being able to bring a plethora of speakers home for in home auditioning, I'm sort of leaning towards just buying something that is a good deal used, and if I end up not liking it, just returning it if possible or selling it and moving on. I know this is a long post and thanks for sticking with me. Any advice is much appreciated.
thp57
One issue in doing a store demo, is you should make an appointment. To listen to some speakers you need TIME. At least a half hour for each pair at that store. do NOT let the saleman jabber. He WILL not stop talking unless you ask him to stop fiddling with the stuff, while he is telling you everything you never wanted to hear bout whatever.
Ask them to turn on and have the system playing for a half hour before you get there if possible. (or, remember it may take awhile for it to settle) Also, some places use a switchboard to swap equipment, if it is an electronic switcher, not so good. better all switching stuff with manual means. Also, they may not have the speakers you want to listen to with each other. that can be a problem if they also have different electronics, and are in a different room... but do what you can do.
BRING YOUR OWN MUSIC!! CD or LP, best usually CD. several CDs you know well, some for female vocal, some strings, (Jazz or classical) some bass, some big hard rocking slamming CD, a quiet then loud piano, and whatever your fav insturment is. You want recordings you KNOW inside and out.
(MAKE CERTAIN YOU TAKE YOUR CDs HOME WITH YOU!) i always lose some!
Just relax and listen to the full favorite cuts from the CDs. make certain the vol remote is in YOUR hand, not the salemans!!!
Set the vol to YOUR comfort level. Nearly ALL salesmen turn it up too loud.
ANd again, tell him to be quiet, go help someone else etc. Just get him to leave you alone so you can listen.
(this is usually the hardest thing to accomplish!!!)
Good luck.
Some places can understand your needs, other places (or just salesmen) act like they are doing you a big favor. Some cannot go away, or shut up. sad.
I auditioned my stuff last time at a place I've known the guy for 25 years.. I still had to turn it down, but he knew to leave me alone for three hours. And I went to audition twice for the same pair of Magnepan 3.6s, with Bryston gear.
He got my 20 large.
Since you're going about this backward by buying your amp before your speakers, I recommend taking your amp with you when you demo speakers. Ask the salesperson to put your amp into the system. Amp/speaker combos can sound very different depending on the amp driving the speakers.

I strongly advise against the buy-and-try method for auditioning speakers. It wastes time and money.

Another suggestion is to do a search of the Virtaul Systems and Discussion threads for owners of your amp to see what speakers they're using.
Based upon your amp selection and the speaker choices listed, I'd be looking at Merlin's and Devore.