Help me narrow down some speaker choices


Had the opportunity to listen to a bunch of well-known brands with my XA30.5 and DirectStream dac/pre and at the end of the day, left even more confused of what direction I wanted to go. I tried:

Totem Sky - Great air and high extension, fun, slightly forward from neutral, but too boomy and midrange wasn't working for me.
Focal Sopra 1 - The BE tweeter was making my ears bleed.
Opera Seconda - Great impact, dug deep, beautiful construction but on the opposite end of the focal, way too warm and congested (relatively speaking). It was definitely a fun speaker that wouldn't offend anyone but left me looking for more clarity and air.
Reference 3A MM deCapo - Really enjoyed these overall in the 2 hours I listened at someone's home but the BE tweeter again was wearing on me in the long run. Acoustic guitar and Gregory Porter's voice sounded absolutely stunning though.
ATC SCM40 - Great extension on either end, very accurate, guitar and voices sounded very real, in the room type of feel, not hifi. Lacked impact and wish it was a little more forward, otherwise very enjoyable and one of my top choices. I think my amp might be part of the limiting factor here.
Verity Audio Finn - Didn't sound coherent at all, top end was very overpowering. Each component was working fine but seemed like I was hearing each individual one rather than a blend, was very unusual.
Harbeth SHL5+ - Wrapped me in music, nice and cozy. Laid back speaker, female vocals sounded great but male voices didn't have the grunt I was hoping for. They left me a little snoozy and wooley sounding (but not signficantly so).

Looking back, I'd like the high-end extension and instrumental texture of a deCapo BE but a notch-back of the sizzle, with a more forward sounding SCM40 that can generate some impact. 

I'm looking at all sorts of options at this point and wondering where to go. Looking at internet direct options as well from PranaFidelity Bhava, Tyler Acoustics Linbrook Sig Floorstander, Salk Sound Song3, Tekton (would have to be the Lore References, I can't stand the sight of the tweeter bug-eye array no matter how they sound. Wife wouldn't let them in the door either).
msommers
If you like the Reference 3A MM DeCapo BE, except they had a bit too much sizzle for you, perhaps you can find a pair of the predecessors - MM DeCapo-i. I had a pair for sever years and really enjoyed them. They had plenty of high end extension and detail, but I did not think the sounded hot or had too much sizzle. They are also more attractive with the excellent piano black lacquer finish, or real wood verneer. They also happen to be considerably less expensive when you find them.
Zu Soul Superfly speakers are very easy to drive at 101db sensitivity. Nice low end punch excellent midrange (vocals sound amazing!) and great highs with plenty of detail. The Soul Supremes have a touch more high end.  
I will second Reubents comments on the De Capos

I have a pair of the de Capos I in cherry and the sound is detailed, rich and works very well with my 4 watt Decware mini torii

used around $1200  took me 8 months of looking but have enjoyed these for 7.5 years

Also used these speakers with  Primaluna PL2 with EL34 and a 2 watt Grommes PHI 26  sounded great with all the amps
@msommers   The shipping to Canada shouldn't be an issue as Eric is shipping to a number of countries overseas. If you are worried about length of time, I'd order an available pair after confirming with him that it is. I can relate, since I am waiting on a custom order that is taking longer than expected.

You have a number of really good options to choose from. Looking forward to learning about your final choice and how it works out for you.
ATC SCM 40 have massive impact when powered appropriately. They need about 150 watts minimum.

ATC have more dynamic impact than most any other speaker except bigger ATC.

If you really like the sound you should try them with appropriate power not flea power.

Where in Canada are you?