What forest? What trees? You just explained why active pre-amps should be as rare as hen's teeth, but you can't seem to explain why the exact opposite it true. If gain in a pre-amp is that obviously bad, and there's no technical justification at all to have it, why is it almost always there? That's all I want to know. This money scam jazz isn't reality.
My guess is that if you're buffering with active devices to ensure the broadest, most uniform compatibility, you might as well throw a little gain in too since the penalty is below the noise floor.