What should I be auditioning?

Best damn stand mount three way monitor speaker on the market under $ 2000.00...The Polk LSi M703. I owned the previous version with the Vifa ring radiator tweeter and the new driver's are far superior. The sound is silky smooth. Incredible detail. Very powerful bass. Play down to 36hz and roll off around 30hz. Work very well for home theater or music. Do an outstanding job on Classical music and all other music forms. The cabinet quality is first rate and the drivers are outstanding in house designs. $1500.00 a pair factory direct.
Weigh 30 pounds each.

If I were auditioning speakers right now, I would certainly give the new Ultras by SVS a listen. Free in home trial for 45 days and free shipping both ways. Really don't have anything to lose.

And, if you don't have a sub yet, pick one up while you are at it.

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My listening is very much like your and I would buy any used pair Revel Performa speakers any day.

Good luck

Depening on your room size and amplifier I would checkout the Kef r500 if you have a dealer in the area. You can read a review at soundstagehifi.com. definitely an over achieving speaker with the qualities you are after. Best luck