Tvad - you're quite right, of course, and I have no interest in an argument here. My plug and play comment was more in reference to the experience of using the setup once the kinks are all worked out. But IMHO, all the pain in suffering of dealing with Apple tech support and whatnot is worth it - once properly configured, I think the experience is a lot easier than using a CD player in many key respects.
I think you may be correct about VNC viewing - I tried it briefly a while ago and found it cumbersome. I'm sorry I'm not able to tell you precisely how I arrived in my current state of password-free, screen-sharing bliss - I'm no techie and got help getting there and it has been a while since I fiddled with it. That said, I would urge you to check the preference settings for Sharing and Network for both your Mini and your MacBook Pro. At any rate, I can testify that there is an a better way - I hope that being able to tell you that at least gives some hope. If all else fails, I would encourage you to gather your resolve and dial 800-MY-APPLE.