If she isn't into the gear, is she into the music?

"Ok, can you turn it off now? My show is on."

You rememdy that by not ever allowing a TV in your listening room. I am a problem solver........

Shakey

My wife likes music but could care less about audio gear. She likes it easy to use and not too loud.

I am having success getting her to listen to a wider variety of music in my music library these days than ever in the past by displaying my music library and currently playing information on the big screen HD TV in my family room using PLEX app on Amazon FIre TV feeding into my two channel A/V system. Its much like the format used by the music channels she likes on our cable TV feed. SHe has no interest in my audio system otherwise other than knowing that I get a lot of enjoyment out of it.

Regrettably not. Her only interest seems to be tantric sex.

Go out for dinner and a show

My wife wouldn't choose to have any of my gear, but does appreciate the sound. She enjoys listening as long as I keep the volume down and she can reach, stitch, or play on the iPad. The system is in parallel with the home entertainment setup because we have a small house and no extra rooms. Our "office" is a box in the coat closet and a MacBook. No listening room for me.