Do you say Thank You?

Great thread, and about time too.

Thanks … that took about one second to type., maybe less.

Thankyou… that took about two and a half seconds, including fixing the typo I made printing it…

maybe folks are just in a hurry…. Haven’t a few seconds or less to spare. That took near thirty seconds or so.

Or maybe it’s because we live in a right click, left click world. A nameless and faceless push button atmosphere, of self serving immediacy and sequestered identities. It is indeed no wonder the lack of social graces remains so in force.

Yet to many, this is a community… not a flea market. It does in fact provide much socialism, education, opportunity, and recreation. The occasional found friend, and found marvel. Those who endure this province show appreciation for it, and are it’s cream which make it up in kind…. Then there are the rest who divulge their nature ultimately by their very acts..

I don’t feel it’s poor parenting, but a choice. I see far too often social failings by mostly new members who have joined only to fill an immediate need for information, or acquisition. They neither contribute to the forums, nor provide closure to their current plan. Once found, they scurry away until another need presents itself.

I believe the web itself does play a part in promoting some degree of abhorrent social displays. Expressing gratitude for information requested upon receipt, is the rule for me, not the exception. It has nothing to do with whether or not I accept it and act accordingly, it is because another has taken their time and efforts to tender me some advice they have found useful, or believe it to be useful in my case. I will always acknowledge that effort.

The only time I will ignore such input, is when the purpose of the reply ‘off thread’ is solely to gain a sale. I see sales offers given to threads I post as unsolicited and I question both their veracity and earnestness. Even so, I will sometimes reply, indicating my lack of interest pleasantly and succinctly. Mostly though now, I just ignore them. I see it as cheap, and desperate.

Correcting social flaws is beyond me. Enduring ignominious actions are at best tedious, and that seems the sum of it here. Far less poor behavior prevails in a face to face situation. Even voice to voice, over the phone attaches a tangible frame to things. I see no solution to the acts of others’ lowered scale of community etiquette. It’s just gonna happen. Comes with the territory so to speak… and it is a shame. That’s why the delete key is fast becoming my favorite key. Although I still love the control key, but it’s a liar. Just an illusion. So is it’s cousin, ‘escape’.

Usually the core of a person is revealed in the interactions within any venue. There are many here who are not afraid to reveal it to others in their generosity, experience, and altruism. To yield a simple “….Thank you” or similar accolade is next to nothing in repayment. It will however in acknowledgement partly refill the cup then extended.

I think it’s the very least anyone, from anywhere and at any age, can and should offer in return. The winners here as with anywhere else, are indeed the givers. They seldom account for the majority yet are easiest to distinguish.

In the immortal words of tony Soprano at his mother’s wake, when being consoled by his associates, each would ask, “How are you doing” or “Are you OK”… he replied each time, “What are ya gonna do?”.

I’m going to keep on doing what I do in as positive a fashion as I can. It’s too late for me to regress now. I am concerned if Elizabeth and that fella with the death ray get together however, but I think that union will be it’s own undoing. I offer that only because I am immune to such devices having been calloused by so many social shortcomings while interacting online.

Thanks much for the thread. Perhaps it will increase at least for a short time, some level of gain in conveying amenities in both worlds, real and web.

I am thinking of this medium as meant to be efficient and very informal. Stating a kind greeting is always OK, but taking the trouble of making conversation itself is mostly based on mere willingness. And I never blame anyone who does not since the sender is known anyway.

To me, email is a delight, THE medium to let go of unnecessary politeness. I do not care about heads and tails in an email. Just the message itself will do really. It is more because of others who consider email as 'formal' as letters that I do greet and thank the sender. This is also the reasin why I am using the automatic signature functionality in my email application.

Letters in writing (or, for that matter, attached to an email message) is more formal IMHO, therefore it more 'appropriate' to greet and thank.

Kind regards from Edam, The Netherlands, Europe,
Piet

I always say thank you. I am however a hunt and peck typer. I try and keep things short and to the point for that reason.

I find most people on this forum to be polite. My activities have dropped up here in the past 18 months. You can usually tell by a persons initial contact how polite they are... Good topic.

I learned that lesson between the ages of 2/3. My mom taught it to me. How about you?

I think its a good thing to do,alot of times theres always some smart asses that want to be cute,but for the guys that provide real based experience yeah i think its appropriate.