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My system has just received the ultimate insult

The girl I have been seeing recently has shown complete indiffrence to my system. (Melos MA-333, Adcom GCD-750, Oddesy Stratus, ML SL3's) Yesterday, I brought up the subject while in my car and she mentioned that she had bought a pair of speakers for $100 that sounded the same. How I wish that were true! I mentioned that she (like others) has no ability to hear or appreciate the difference. She of course disagreed. I said, that is like saying "all people look just about alike and are equally attractive". She again could not see my logic. When we got home, I played a track for her on my $150 sat/sub with a $20 portable CD player and asked her to listen to it. I then played the same track for her on my system and to my amazement, she said it sounded noticable WORSE! She described it as sounding like a radio station that was not tuned properly with lots of static. What I am assuming is that she has never heard a system that had any kind of hi-freq extension and likened it to "static". Others have heard my system and are completely blown away with every aspect of how it sounded. We have much different tastes in the music we listen to. I have 2 questions to ask, 1) is it possible that she could enjoy listening to 'Her' stereo as much as I enjoy listening to mine? 2) may I continue to be involved with her and still have the respect of my peers?

For the record, I listened to it last night after the insult, and it sounded as wonderful and envolving as ever!
pmwoodward
dave43
95 posts
 
My wife of 20 years never used to care about my audio
system except for the amount of money I spent on it.
(Usually the case in most marriages). But now, after many
years, if we're visiting friends and they turn on their
"Best Buy" system, she always comments later how bad
it sounded! So, at least she knows what music is supposed
to sound like, and cuts me a little slack when it's time
to upgrade.
ljgj
955 posts
 
Try a tube amp with the electrostats or maybe she is trying to get you to break up with her before she breaks up with you. If she ever moves in - your system will go while hers stays so if that is the future plan than go over to her place and get use to hers and start building a great car system because that is the only area you will have for yourself (at times).
jsbail
320 posts
 
Slip out the back Jack.
sedond
1,314 posts
 
does this mean i have to sell my prized melos music-director? a boom-box system sounds better? ;~)

i'm w/ljgj - i tink she's tryin' to break up w/ya. either that, or she has a great sense of humor, & is pulling yer leg, cuz she thinks it's a hoot that anyone would spend more on a single component than a whole system costs! :>)

doug s.

centurymantra
133 posts
 
You may be faced with a situation in which you are preaching to someone who simply does not care about audio and is perhaps not even seriously 'into' music as it were. You may also be faced with some more abastract issues. Perhaps she perceives your audio-hobby as a threat to your future relationship or at the very least a 'waste of time'. Due to this, she may take every opportunity to downplay it's significance and/or audio-superiority. That aside, the very forceful presence of a good system can be a bit intimidating as it virtually commands attention. This is something which I think is unappealing to a lot of people (it isn't background music anymore and this what a lot of people relegate music to). However, referring to what is obviously a fine system as 'static' is not something I would perceive as a sincere reaction. This seems to be a very calculated response thrown out to be contrary or even combative. Generally speaking, one of the hardest things to do sometimes is change someone's mind and I would not expect a complete turnaround from one casual exposure.

I certainly wouldn't bag a relationship over something like a difference of opinion in audio, although if you find this type of attitude stretching into other issues it may give reason for pause and reflection.

Best of luck to ya'...
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