So I have a(t least one) question: How far are you from your speakers? And are you listening in stereo or something else?
You're comparing your audio system - source & amplification, speakers and room - to an "in your ear" presence. In many ways that seems to be two totally different worlds (or universes). One way to address that might be to move your listening position up to be closer and maybe almost between your front/stereo pair. I'm not saying that will solve the world's problems but for you it might level the playing and listening field and then you can decide which you like more. And for one last thing - you questioned (or suspected) that none of the high-end speakers were living up to claimed specs. Do you have readings or similar data on how that gear is performing in your listening environment? Just askin'...
You're comparing your audio system - source & amplification, speakers and room - to an "in your ear" presence. In many ways that seems to be two totally different worlds (or universes). One way to address that might be to move your listening position up to be closer and maybe almost between your front/stereo pair. I'm not saying that will solve the world's problems but for you it might level the playing and listening field and then you can decide which you like more. And for one last thing - you questioned (or suspected) that none of the high-end speakers were living up to claimed specs. Do you have readings or similar data on how that gear is performing in your listening environment? Just askin'...

