What's most important to WAF-size, shape, finish?

SMALLER….it has been the only thing my wife has cared about. The reason is that it takes up less room in our living room which the system shares with everyday living. If I had my own room then who cares? But if your “friend” is real fashion conscious then they might find looks to be most important. But even the most interior decorative minded person won’t like speakers, they just don’t see them as art….like I do and I am sure most of you do.

If you can't get the W/SO involved, meaning "liking", the hobby then nothing you do is going to please her/him. You just have "potentially" lessor degrees of irritation from her/him. If you can’t get them to be involved or at least understand your desire to have this hobby in your life, everything will be a hassle.

Example:

My wife does not care about equipment, I can now bring a piece in (after many many) and she won’t notice. Now speakers if significant shape change she will notice but doesn’t comment anymore. I dominate our rather small living room. We fought in the beginning because she didn’t understand and thought with all our other more important priorities why would we spend money on something so extravagant (good question really). I tried to involve her in decisions, music, trips to store etc and she just isn't interested. Nothing personal but she just can’t will herself to care. We had many conversations about how important this was to me and that it could never be “logically” defended except that it gives me pleasure. I asked, begged, etc for her to understand me and asked to set it aside as an issue (because in my heart it would never go away). Asked her not to ask me to give it up, I sacrifice in other areas and work hard, love her and the kids so can’t I have my hobby even if it is a little crazy from most people’s point of view? Basically, “Mom, can’t I keep the puppy? Please? Please?” ……by the way, I told her I wished she was interested, really from the heart, in my interest so I could talk and share about it but she just can’t muster any true energy so I live this part of my life sort of on the side rarely talking to her about details. (probably why on such a easy post you get such a long response? :) )

Anyway, we have come to an understanding and she tolerates and rarely flares up about the hobby. Every so often I reinforce our previous conversations. I still dip in once in a while and see if I can interest her in some part of the hobby but alas I walk alone.

In other words….I don’t ask about size, shape, color, etc anymore.

good luck
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Tsugury, I kind of did what you suggested by accident. I showed my wife the Nautilus 802s and she said ()^$*(+) so we got 803s. I showed her the HTM1 and she said ()^$*(+) so we got the HTM2. You get the idea ? She didn't seem to care about cost. Or sound. It seemed to be about size and looking like something that's more likely to answer back if she tries to talk to it. She likes in-walls for the surrounds and she made damn sure that I wasn't going to make her see any wires (cables to you and me). I think she appreciates the speakers as being a nice piece of furniture. She hasn't commented on all those black and silver boxes by the TV but she does want to know why the little blue lights stay on all the time - I think it's bugging her but she hasn't pushed the point.

aj-lol I was trying to be polite, to the best of my recollectoin your married-thus meaning your spoken for, however if you had a sister(i'll omit younger from my querry) there is a better chance she wouldn't be ;) I have a hard time when I find out the age of some members I assume they are late 20's and find out they are closer to double that! makes me feel alienated, but that's half of what being an audiophile is all about, realising that you are unusual and coming to grips with it! Cheers, ~Tim

I am on the "open market" again, my son..... read my bio... trying to come to grips myself! As you can tell from my bratiness, I am feeling somewhat better! - aj

the size and shape are certainly important but if you give her a good finish any other shortcomings will most likely be overlooked ;-))