Musician vs. audiophile

Valid points here, but I think it also has something to do with the low volumes that you're listening at.  Some speakers (or speaker+amp combos) just don't "come alive" at low volumes, even though at higher volumes they may beat up on the alternatives that sound better at low.

Before changing your system try first to change your cables I upgraded  all my cables (speakers,coax ,interconnect and jumpers) to Tellurium Ultra Black with great results much more details, transparency and dynamics .

I wouldn't blow money on cables right now, they will make subtle differences but nothing life changing.

In general, Wilson speakers sound great when... they are properly matched to other components, proper cabling, and pretty good to great acoustics (and positioning) in the room.  If they sound flat and uninteresting it is not unusual at all.  However, this is the 3rd iteration of Sophia's and they should (normally) be the cornerstone of your system.  A Wilson dealer should come over and see and hear your system and make some suggestions starting with the most cost-effective ones 1st.  If you can afford a more forgiving pair of speakers there are several i can think of, but that could involve a lot
of money, time, and effort as well.  I always wanted the accuracy of Wilson's but i thought i could do better elsewhere and for less money and ended up with a giant-killing pair of Eggleston Andra's.
Anything similar to those would IMO add a great measure of musicality to most normal living rooms (Merlins, Sonus Faber, Reference 3a's, Focal, etc.).  

What an interesting situation. But first, what is the source ?
She might prefer the sound of panel or hybrid speakers as many women do, but something is wrong with the BAT/Wilson set-up. Also, the power amp is solid state not tube, this might contribute. In addition, wall current may be bad.
A lot of work to do.